This is one very nice quote from a person that i met when i was very young, and recently i got one of his book called "Celebrating Silence", the book which contains some of his talks that he's given during all this years. Because lots of things happen to my friends i'm feeling that one specific talk should be put here. It's called Tolerance.

"Neither accept people as they are nor tolerate them.
Many people think tolerance is a virtue but tolerance is actually a negative term. If you like something, you do not have to tolerate it. Tolerance indicates a deep sense of dislike that can at any time turn into hatred. It indicates a sense of separateness, small mindedness, a limitation of consciousness.
When you tolerate, it is temporary state. Tolerance is potential volcano. If you are tolerating, it means you are just holding on. Acceptance is also negative. You accept that which is not lovable. Tolerance and acceptance come with judgment and separation.
If you do not love them, then you have to accept them. I tell you, do not accept  people as they are. Just love them as they are."

"We don't want to be happy. We want other things. Or let's put it more accurately: We don't want to be unconditionally happy. I'm ready to be happy provided I have this and that and the other thing. But this is really to say to our friend or to our God or to anyone, "You are my happiness. If I don't get you, I refuse to be happy." It's so important to understand that. We cannot imagine being happy without those conditions. That's pretty accurate. We cannot conceive of being happy without them. We've been taught to place our happiness in them."